Eustress, Biodomes, The Good Life

Let's try and do a short post. It's already Monday, and tomorrow I plunge back into seeing clients and doing case notes. I've also started to study for the NCMHCE exam, which I'll have to pass to get licensed and be able to continue practicing, after I graduate. I don't think I'm doing too bad, I took some practice tests, but I'm slow, and my performance was all over the place. So: time to study and do practice tests. Ah well. I did it before to get licensed as a teacher, I can do some test prep again. Not the most difficult thing, but time consuming.

My birthday continues to approach. I've got a bunch of ideas for my birthday party, but I am coming to realize I won't have much time to actually prepare for it, so I need to pare back on my preparations and plans. Story of my life, these days.

I'm coming to the realization that for me, 'the good life' = having time to focus deeply on projects and do them well, plus enough stretch to make me put in good effort.

By streatch, I mean the concept that you want your goals to be doable, but a stretch. If they are unrealistic, that can be discouraging, but also if they are too easy, it leads to not putting in as much effort, and then you don't feel as good about what you did. There is a psychological term 'eustress' which means good stress. That is this concept. Having some challenge in life is a good thing, it spurs growth. Like lifting heavy weights. If you only lift weights that are easy for you, you won't get any stronger. And you might not even maintain your fitness. We are creatures of adaptation, and if we don't have difficulty to adapt to, we get weak.

I always think about the biodome trees: trees that were grown under a big biodome, they never had wind that tried to blow them over, so eventually they would grow to tall and just topple over, because their root system was too shallow. No wind to fight against, getting their roots to grow deep.

But you want to find the right balance. Too much, and you injure yourself, or burn out.

OK, back to work (but I guess not for too long, so I can go to bed early. There's that balance again.

Spring, birthday, garden.

 I need to write more posts, so here's a short one that's more of an update than a musing: the leaves are fully out now, spring is in full leaf, the early flowers have bloomed and dropped, the weather is warm and sunny and delightful to be outside in (as long as you are in the shade, or out during sunrise or sunset.) So far the bugs haven't been bad at all, which is a huge blessing here in Iowa, where mosquitoes and biting gnats are the norm. Not sure if that's because of the huge temperature variations waking them up and then freezing them, or it's just not time for them yet, though there are certainly bugs out. Haven't seen any fireflies yet.

I'm thinking about plans for my birthday party. It's 40, so I should probably do something. I feel like my larger parties are more about me giving a gift to others, rather than about me, whereas the small one I do with a few intimate friends, are for my own sake.

Suzannah is hard at work on the garden, pulling up grass/sod to create a vegetable bed, and planting perennials and trees and some of the seedlings she's been growing in the guest bathroom.

The fruit tree's she planted last year had lots of flowers on them, now dropped, and I was worried their branches would break, if they all became fruit, but it looks like the trees were smart enough not to turn any of the flowers into fruit this year, which is fascinating.

OK, I'm gonna arbitrarily end there for now. Perhaps you'll get another some time soon, but probably not until the end of the week. We'll see how things go as I start up internship and need to start adding more clients to my caseload so I can get enough hours to graduate.

I hope you're getting some spring beauty where you are now as well, both internally and externally. I always find it easy to be happy during spring, as long as I get outside regularl.

The end of break. Fancy names and fancy hats. The right time.

It is the last day of my wonderful week long break. I'm now in the familiar stage of thinking/feeling "oh no, there is so much that I wanted to do that I didn't get done" with the accompanying worry.

On the other hand, it's much milder than when I was a teacher, probably because I'm actually looking forward to the work I do each day. And, rather than feeling like I had squandered my time and didn't get anything important done, I did in fact make a lot of progress on the #1 task I had set for myself this break, that is, cleaning up the mess in my office. I did several other areas as well, throughout the house, and set up some very simple systems to keep my office nice and tidy (very simple: throw all the stuff on my desk into a box at the end of the day and put in on a shelf off to the side. Simple, but effective.) I also got a bunch of little tasks done. Items that were just sitting around, not getting done because I didn't have time and not getting put away because I didn't want to forget that they needed to get done at some point.

It certainly reminded me how nice it was, to have periods of time that are not high demand, where I can take care of my environment and myself. There were still a bunch of other things I did during the week, I didn't get to spend the whole thing cleaning and tidying. There were various tasks, and I spend some of the time doing further research and reading related to becoming a better therapist. I find that whole field of research fascinating, which is a good sign, since it will not take much effort to get me to keep learning and growing in this area. I am naturally very curious and motivated. I wish I had more time for that now, but currently I really need to focus on the basics of graduating, getting certified, and making sure I can do the basic, often administrative tasks that are fundamental to the insurance, ethical, and legal requirements. But I'm really looking forward to when I'll have more time to dive deep into the nitty gritty of how to get better at the actual work of counseling.

I think I probably shouldn't wait till I come across the perfect time, as I don't think that will ever exist. But this week gives me hope that, though I can't do as many projects as I would like, I can at least do one every now and then.

The next big one will be preparing for and passing the NCMHCE exam, that will allow me to become a mini licensed counselor. "Mini" meaning I still need a few thousand more hours of supervised practice before I can work independently. The official term is "temporary" but I'm not a fan of fancy names for simple things. Though I do like fancy words. But I like them like an elaborate costume hat with a giant feather : it should not be worn seriously, but for the entertainment of all.

On another subject: I know I talk about time a lot, and using time well, and that may seem excessive, but consider this: time is so precious that no matter how much you pay, you can never get a single minute back, once it has been used, and all other forms of wealth, happiness, love, and purpose, can happen only with the grace of time acting as a container for all the other experiences. There is a Vedic saying,  that time is God. Though they also say everything is a part of God, so it's not actually special in that sense, the fact that they name it as such, is a reminder of it's value. To waste time is to literally waste life, the two are inseparable. So, a focus on using one's time well is not a mere pastime, but a goal of essential importance in everyone's life.

May you use your time well and cherish the time you have,

I Out

Heaven

 I've got a week off. I've decided to spend a big portion of it cleaning, tidying, and getting rid of old stuff I don't want/need anymore. A good ol' fashioned spring cleaning. Along with clearing out the old gunk/junk phyisically, I'm also going through my overstuffed task list, taking care of all sorts of little tasks that have piled up because none of then are super time sensitive. but they just kind of have an almost phyisical weight to them, as they pile up. Like being buried alive, one grain of sand at a time.

In any case, it feels fantastic. I'm super productive. Well, maybe just decently productive. But that's enough to feel great. Often my breaks in the past would end up getting swallowed up by one rabbit hole or another, and a fair bit of it has been that, but also an unusually high proportion has been the stuff I've been wanting to get done. It is so so deeply rewarding and pleasant. To just have some spaciousness of time, to burrow into my task list and check of one thing after another. Sure, there are big projects that need to get done too, but it's like having a messy desk full of odds and ends, it just makes it more difficult to concentrate on the work at hand when it's so full of these other physical objects that keep chirping at me to complete the task/project they are tied too.  Many of the tasks are physical ones, I walk along, or am in the process of putting something away, and I see one of those things that needs to be put away, is attached to a task that needs to be completed, related to it. And... here's the magical part...I actually have the time to do that task, and resolve it, rather than just toss it in a box to deal with later. This is heaven, and it doesn't take that much to get there. Just a little spaciousness of time. I suppose I should remember that as I think about how I want my life to be: I really, really enjoy having time. There is a lot I am willing to forgo, to have that luxury. It doesn't have to be all the time, I like working as well, but every now and then, having a week off to really dig in and take care of all the little stuff, feels amazing.

Also, for whatever reason, I'm at a place where it is a lot easier to let go of things. Maybe it is that spaciousness of time letting me relax and not worry that I need x or y some day. Maybe it is generally relaxing more into the feeling that I am enough, and I don't need to do or accomplish some specific and ever out-of-reach amount of 'stuff' to justify my existence. Maybe it is my increasing trust in the force and benevolent intelligence that moves in and through us that I might call God. Maybe it is just that there is a lot of stuff that has simply sat in boxes for years, and I haven't thought about it or needed it at all. Whatever the case, it feels easier than in the past, to quickly decide something is not important anymore for me, and I can let it go.

I just did the bathroom closet, and a lot of that was made simpler by the fact that a lot of things were well past their expiration date.

I think a big part of it though, is that in the past, there was a lot of feeling of identity and worthiness tied up in my stuff. I had hopes that the right stuff would fix my problems, because I sure couldn't. Now I feel differently. It's still in process, but it's moving in good ways.

OK, I'll end there for today, since I should write another one to stay current.

Dictated, and then heavily edited. Time, filtering, reflection.

 Time is God project (filtering).

So now that I am done with my Finding my right work project, which had been ongoing for, man, how long? I'm 40, at least 20 years.

Even though I'm not fully done with it, I feel like I am on the right path. With counseling and the other stuff that I haven't started yet, it feels very doable and will fit right in with the being creative and writing type stuff.

I am really in the meat of my time thing, and feeling like I'm starting to get some movement and at least awareness of it. A lot of it feels like a mental thing. I guess that's what Sai Maa was saying, but a mental thing of being okay in the moment, being present, not grabbing or clenching too much.

Letting go of these beliefs that say I don't have enough time, or I'm not doing enough, or feeling like I need to earn my place by producing value. I'm just letting those go so that I can enjoy the current moment.

Because that trying to be more efficient, it's getting clearer to me experientially how that is a hamster wheel. And also noticing that the way I'm trying to get quicker at something is not very effective. It's like trying to compact water. You can't really compact it like you can with air.

So it's not really about chewing faster; it's about taking less bites, so to speak, and accepting that limitation. What did I have to do? Less things. Though there is another part of it that is about going faster and not thinking so much before in between things.

There's just a kind of momentum of, "okay, now we're doing this," and there's an underlying movement almost like being on a treadmill. I have to keep walking to keep up, which is both a little exhilarating and a little maybe anxiety-producing? Just that background buzz of pressure.

And I guess a lot of what I'm doing is I'm trying to find the synthesis, the top point of the triangle between the A and B. Let's see. It's above it, in it; contains the good elements from both A and B in a proper application that is a higher-order way of thinking and being in the world. Nice, you saw a triangle analogy, which remember has infinite triangles of progressive refinement, one on top of another.

I'm also noticing as I try and move more quickly and create efficient systems, that my mind is not naturally orderly like that. I think it's more of an artist's mind, kind of goes all over the place. That is great for creativity, but not for being super organized, and I think maybe I need to cut myself a break.

I work in a system that doesn't require me to be different than I am, but I don't know what that system would be or would look like. I enjoy order a lot, but I tend to make systems too complex, and then it becomes disorderly and/or too ungainly to maintain its order.

As I'm saying this, I'm looking at the door to my closet, preferred with rainbow sticky notes. I like that system. It was artistic, satisfying, and also kind of simple.

I like things to be simple, I like things to be pretty, I like things to be well done. I think that might mean Simplification, maybe doing less things. But I'm really not sure.

I'm not sure what a system design for how I work looks like. But that also works for me, what that means, what that looks like.

I might be in a place where I trust myself enough that I can find out, rather than trying to fit myself into other people's systems. One thing that is a certainty is that doing that, creating that, will take time. I think accepting that is part of the groundedness and reality necessary to make it actually happen.

As a final side note: I'm using a voice-to-text dictation software for this. So if it just said something weird somewhere, that's its fault. Probably. Though I do say some weird things sometimes.

I wonder if this would make a good blog post. Also, speaking of the AI voice-to-speech dictation, I am starting to play around with AI to see if it can help me save time on things that I don't care about doing myself, and/or it can do better and faster than I can. But that also requires some creating of systems.

[later note: hm, I wrote this april 16th, but it says it never got published? but in another spot it says it did get published? I'm gonna try publishing it again, apologies if it's a duplicate.]

Nishkama Karma, Curmudgeonly old man, Prochaska's transtheoretical model of change

 OK, I finally finished a big project I was slowly working on, my renewal of creative path (ROCP). If you want to know more about it, I'll let the person who taught me about it, teach you:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eY-TzXf9lVI

https://open.spotify.com/show/3RXH7e7UJo51D56HEZ2ZPT

In any case, I'm now working on a new project. I am listening to/reading a book by John Norcross walking through the science and implementation of Prochaska's transtheoretical model of change, so I'm going to try applying that to this. Though I'll be using some other strategies I already know as well. This is about behavior change, related to making good use of my time. Which is a tricky and complex thing to address, because there are so many elements to it and ways of thinking about it and approaching it, so to start off with I was just trying to get a bit more of a clear handle on what I actually want, out of this goal/behavior change.

I have kind of moved a bit away from the direct "do things faster" or "get a better system so you can do more things" approach, to think more about the want behind that goal. Really, I want to be able to look back at my day and feel good about how I spent it. That's about a lot more than timeboxing and having a todo list. It's about how I choose what to work on, and also the way, I do things. Think of the old cliche about doing the dishes as a spiritual practice. Anything you do can be elevated to become something meaningful, if you do it in the right way. Spiritualizing the mundane, maybe you'd call it.

From this perspective, the specific systems for organizing and time management are less important, though they still may play a role some of the time. It's a lot more about choosing what I do mindfully, and doing it in a good way. Mindfully doesn't really capture it though, it's just a buzzword. I've got very specific examples and peak experiences from my own life that make it much more concrete and specific for me.

 It's about nishkama karma, or karma yoga, partially. It's about living in the immensity, the mystery, and as a part of the underlying reality of love and unity. Acting from that place, and letting go of attachment and over-thinking about the results, so as to focus fully on the doing. And acting from a place of love, connection, and transpersonal identification, again, so that action is coming from a good place. I do not think the ends justify the means, because the same basic action done with love vs. selfishness can have very different results and repercussions, both for oneself and the others it effects.

This is the "Filtering" project I'd been talking about previously. It's the same thing, just with me trying to specify and operationalize it for myself. It's still not simple though, which makes me think I've got a good way to go on it still. Once I can elegantly summarize it from personal experience, I'll know I've got the hang of it.

In any case, previously I was just kind of idly thinking about it, but now I'm starting to activly take steps towards implementing it.

That's where I am for today.

Progress notes still taking an hour a pop. Practicum is coming to a close in a few weeks. Internship will then start up, and I'll need to take on twice as many clients to make sure I get all my hours it, which will be a lot. Also, I'll need to study for and take the counselor certification exam. So, it's gonna be very full, even though I won't have a second class I'm doing at the same time.

Also, apparently my 40th birthday is coming up. Kinda odd to think about but not that odd, I've felt like a curmudgeonly 90 year old man since I was a kid and often think about my death, so it's not too big of a jump :D

I've got to go now, so I guess I'm ending this for now.

All the best, dear friends and family,

-I Out.

Trust, Hormones, Letting Go(d)

 Let's see. We've started IVF, which involves a lot of injections. Hopefully it will result in a new life, which goes along with the spring celebration theme. I finally had a chance to finish my renewal of creative path project, something like creating a vision or north-star ideal scene for direction.

We celebrated Passover for the last three days. Suzannah is a bit overwhelmed I think. Taking hormones is rough, it messes with how you're feeling. And there was a lot of cooking and a bunch of other stuff going on all at once. I think she's doing a good job dealing with all the stressors, but that doesn't make it easy.

I'm thinking about time in a different way. Rather than trying to push and squeeze, I'm working on releasing. Trying to release expectations and things that are causing me unnecessary pressure, as well as trying to release self-expectations and standards and completionism that takes of my time than some tasks are actually worth. As well as release some of the pressure and "should"s that I put on myself that make time feel more squished and tight. As well as the distractions I give myself that tend to shrink the felt sense of how much time I have.

It's a more gentle and kind approach to myself than I've done in the past, and it feels good, but is yet to bear much fruit. We'll see how it goes.

OK, time to write a paper and do a weekly review today. Which seem like excellent opportunities to practice this letting go of perfection and completeness and leaning into Self trust.

You know I'll keep you updated,

With love,

Isaac

Spring celebrations and rules lawyering

I just gathered up all the blog post recurring 'todos' that I haven't yet done. it looks like a lot. Not sure If I've continued to get behind, or just haven't had time to catch up from a while ago. So, a brief update, and maybe a second short blog post, to catch up. We'll see. Finally caught up with paperwork, but it's still taking me well over an hour to do the paperwork for each hour long session. That's not sustainable. I'm continuing to try and shorten the process, but so far, I've only made incremental progress. However, it's the same approach I take to any problem in my like that I decide to fix, I just keep at it, trying different approaches, or refining my current approach, until I get to a point that's good enough. However, I'm more time bound than normal, because my internship is coming up shortly, and I need to go from 5 clients a week to more like 12. And I should start adding clients sooner, rather than later, because the initial paperwork takes even longer, so it's important not to have more than one of those a day. best not to have too many in a week either, lest I get too far behind or have too much to do in the evenings, leading to me staying up late.

There's also the end of the semester coming up, and thus a bunch of papers. So... maybe not catching up that much on my blog posts. This is enough for one though, so I'll end it here and start a second. Rules lawyering for the wind! A venerable Jewish and gamer tradition. Oh, happy Passover, if your Jewish, and happy Easter, if your Christian. And I guess I already missed happy equinox, if your...what would you call that? I'm thinking 'Pagan'? But that seems like a catch-all. Nature-based?

Anyhoo, happiness to you, every day of the year.

-I Out

Filtering Fish, Motivation, and letting go

 OK! I am caught up on paperwork for work. Now I can focus again on the other stuff I put on the back-burner to get that done, such as taxes...

On a positive note: for  several months (a year?) I've been keeping a "curiosity/motivation" journal. I wanted to improve my motivation, feed my curiosity, so I had the engine I needed to put in the hard work required for mastery. And you know what? I feel like I got there. I'm highly motivated currently. I think the main thing that did it was actually starting to practice as a therapist. I love my work, and it lights me up, and it kind of feels like that being lit up bleeds over into my whole life. That is fantastic, and deserves a celebration.

I am now onto a new thing (because there's always a next thing) and that is what I've been calling my FILTERING project. After a cute CBT style short story for kids about "filtering fish." My message is different than the one in the story, which is about not thinking only about the negative in a situation and assuming the worst. My filtering is about prioritization, mainly. I call it filtering, because to prioritize feels like a task by task thing, while my issue often happens within tasks. I'm doing the right task, but I get sidetracked in the middle, or spend to long on a specific portion of it, and that part shouldn't get done, or shouldn't have that much time spent on it.

Some of that relies on my ability to focus, and stay focused, not getting pulled off by distractions.

But another part of it is my ability to let go. We all have the desire to complete things we start, and I have a desire to do things well, if I'm doing them at all. The ability to let go of something, even if I've already started it, is important, and the ability to realize something does not require my full maximum effort/time input, and let it get done just to the level necessary, is connected to this ability to let go. I can get focus locked on something I'm working on, partially this is my mind fooling me into staying focused on it for  long periods, without coming up for air, because 'it's gonna take a long time so I need to get it done as quickly as possible' which means not taking breaks. BUT, I think there's also a part of me that realizes, in these situations, that if I do take a break to clear my mind and get some perspective, I'll realize it's not a good idea to keep working on it, and I'll stop, and Isaac in the moment wants to finish it, so in order to sneakily get myself to not stop myself, I just don't let myself have that space to think, and keep working on it till it's done. Then I come up for air and realize 'what the heck did I just spend 3 hours on?' but by then it's too lake.

So again, a part of that is letting go. Being willing to let go of what I'm focusing on, being willing to be wrong, and stop working on it. Being willing to at least pause and check in if it's really what I feel like I should be doing.

I've always been slow. Slow and careful and thoughtful. Though paradoxically, some of my most enjoyable moments and days have been when I've been quick and spontaneous and creative and not at all careful. Doing improv, writing and creating quickly, without editing or worrying about quality. I have kind of taken that type of activity away from myself, over the last many years, and I'd really, really like to give it back to myself. That's a bit of a digression, though an important and related one.

The point I was making was I'm slow, and careful, and get things done slowly, which means I can't do as great a quantity of things as other people, and thus it behooves me even more than the average person, to be very thoughtful and careful with my time and attention. Prioritizing well is even more important.

And ultimately, one of the best ways to do that is very simple: just take a break frequently, a real break, let my mind relax and expand, preferably in nature, and then ask myself from that wiser place, what the best next thing to do is (and how to go about doing it, sometimes what to do is obvious, but how to do it is often more nuanced and hard to get right. I'm thinking about the Bhagavad-Gita advice about renunciation of the fruits of action and Karma Yoga in general.)

OK! That's this weeks post.

With love, and wishing you all good, dear friend or family <3

-IO

Dr. Crunch

10:30 pm before my work week starts up again. Tried unsuccessfully to get caught up with paperwork. Caught up somewhat? but not fully, and now the next week comes, to bury me further. This seems unsustainable. Not sure what to do about it yet, but writing a long blog post is not it. At least I'm not falling behind on this, though I'm sure it's not as interesting as usual. Suzannah is away for the week on a buisness trip. My schedule is off. In the same way that having someone watch you work tends to make you more focused, having someone else at homes tends to make me stick to a better routine. (unless we're staying up late playing games together :D)

Hello again my old friend time crunch.

Busy doing paperwork catch-up

Hi! I'm extremely busy. Doing paperwork, and papers, all weekend. Still working on it. Still love what I'm doing, but it's really a lot, and I'm catching up on stuff that is backlogged, so unfortunately, that's all I've got time for, this post. Behind on a lot of stuff, and it feels like more keeps getting shoveled on, faster than I can shovel it off. Even as I deprioritize non-essential stuff for some unknown future time. I feel like I should give some concrete details... It might blizzard here in Iowa. There are some fruit tree branches that our neighbor suggested we put in a vase, and they are indeed blooming now, which is very pretty. I'm worried the warm weather and now hard freeze, is going to kill all the fruit tree buds, but hopefully they haven't opened enough to be vulnerable. We will see. OK, that's something, now I'm back out and back to work.

Hope things are less hectic on your end. All good to you,

-Isaac

Excessive Paperwork. Filtering Fish. Learning to Drive.

 It is Monday night, which is basically the end of my long weekend. The first two days of my weekend were straight up writing documentation or other time sensitive stuff. I did that right into the night, not moving very much, till my wife came into the living room which was pitch black because I hadn't gotten up from my seat on the couch from when it was light out. I'm doing a lot of work. There is a lot of work to do. It's feeling a bit excessive. I'm super into my work as a counselor, and so I at least for now have the energy for it via my enthusiasm, but I think it's a bit much to be sustainable.

and here I am, almost 9, and there are just so so many more things on my list I wanted to get done this weekend. As always, I wish for more time.

I'm thinking about filtering. I think I often do more than is necessary, because I don't have a good filter that lets me discard unimportant things. I just take whatever is in front of me, and do it as though it's important, trying to do a good job on it. There are many times when it would be better to go "eh, I think that's good enough." And leave it at that, or even "you know what, this is taking too long, it's not worth the time." Or even, "I think this isn't worth doing at all, for now."

Deciding, or figuring out, which things are the ones that should get filtered out, quickly and without a lot of energy expended, is a weak point for me, and so I'm putting some attention on it, because I would like to get better at it. Spending 4 hours per set of intake paperwork is excessive. Even one hour per normal paperwork per client, seems excessive, and absolutely unsustainable, when I have a normal client load.

Some of this is made more difficult though, because there is so much that I am still learning. I remember reading somewhere, one of the things experienced therapists do better than newbies, is filter out the important stuff that gets said in session, from the unimportant. The new therapists think everything is equally important, and so are overwhelmed and often the important stuff gets missed, because they can't pick it out from the rest. I certainly feel that way about what I'm writing in the after-session paperwork. But also with all the little things I have to keep track of. It's like learning to drive: at first, there is way too much to keep track of at once. Eventually, most of it becomes automatic. Until then, it feels pretty nerve wracking and you're always cutting people off in traffic because you didn't check your mirror or put on your turn signal because you were just trying to stay in your lane.

It seems like a skill wholly or mostly separate from doing counseling. I would still want to take notes even if nothing was required for insurance, but they would be a lot different, and take a lot less time. Perhaps there is some use in the structured format they are in. But the amount of time I'm putting in, is more than the use I'm getting out of it. Still working to find the balance of that.

Gotta go now. still need to do dishes before I go to bed. Still very enthusiastic and positive about my internship, but also feeling a bit overwhelmed. Probably a normal feeling.

OK, that's all for this week. Hooray for not falling behind on this.

Oh, P.S. the filtering fish reference in the intro is just a CBT story for kids I heard. That filter was about only seeing negative stuff (or not, and seeing the positive as well) but just the idea of filtering stuck with me, though my filtering is of a totally different nature.

Two Rabbits, One Client, Many Sneezes

I have seen my first client solo! It is wonderful. One client last week, four (planned) this week. Have a head cold and sneezing like crazy. Thankful for soft cloth handkerchiefs, for my nose, and the environment. Feeling very busy, but also excited and grateful. Doing this work continues to feel very good. Such a different experience to teaching.

OK, that's it for this week. Short I know but better than nothing.

There are so many things I want to do, and like doing. That's a good thing, in many ways. I'm engaged in life. But I think it does require me getting better and focusing, because otherwise my energy is going in too many directions and it is non-ideal. What's the phrase? Chase two rabbits catch none? Or something like that.

Anyhoo, good-bye for now and good luck in your own endeavours.

Love, Isaac

Mole-Trip, LitRPG-Trauma, Deliberate-Practice

That last one was actually written February 4th, this one is actually written February 16th. Things are exceedingly busy this week. They were even busier last week, which is why I didn't write anything. I may have my first solo client this week. Exciting!

I just drove up to Iowa City and back to get a skin culture for a mole. I'm very tired. My wife's sister and sister's youngest kid were visiting for the weekend. I'm listening to a fun fluffy LitRPG "He Who Fights With Monsters" by Shirtaloon, and a heavy practical one about trauma and children and counseling called "The Boy Who was Raised as a Dog" kind of need to alternate so I don't traumatize myself with too much of the heavy stuff.

There is no way I'm going to get half of the stuff I have planned for this week done, and the other half is gonna have to get done much more poorly than I like. I spend a bunch of time researching and preparing a presentation where I ended up presenting about 1% of what I researched and then got cut off because we ran out of time. Also I don't think anyone was interested. Was that a poor use of my time? I still don't think so as what I was researching was imminently practical. Deliberate practice as applied to improving oneself as a counselor, as the most scientifically grounded way of doing that. Same general idea I had for teacher training. I really should do more of that, since I'm so passionate about it.

OK, very tired and I think I have more to do before I go to bed so I should cut this short.

May you have love and magic in your life,

-Isaac

Morality, Sickness, Egg salad.

Time keeps passing so quickly. I'm in the thick of things and there's so much going on. Practicum/internship, Career Counseling, A wedding this weekend. Also maybe I'm sick? Headache stomach ache, but no fever, cough, or sneeze. I was able to sleep all day, that's usually a sign my body is fighting something, normally I can't just stay in bed all day with my eyes closed, I need to get up and start doing stuff.

Anyhoo, just wanted to put out something this week, so I'm not getting further and further behind with my blogs. And I like posting a blog every week. Someday I'd like to be writing and creating more, regularly. But now is not the time to add another thing onto my plate.

I made egg salad! That's almost like cooking. I feel confident in my egg salad making abilities. I can follow that recipe.

OK, that's all for now. Going to go to bed before 9 to get extra sleep, I think I will go into internship tomorrow, if they will let me. It's an interesting question though. Is it immoral?

Hmm, coming back to this much later, it looks like I never sent this.

Tracking what I did throughout my whole week, a half-hour at a time: results and insights

Hello! It's been a while since my last post. Life is very full and busy. 

Some quick tidbits: I did a time audit for the last week, where I tracked what I did in 30 minute increments. Though I actually got a bit more granular, as I often do a lot of little things each hour. I guess that's one of the insights that came from doing that: left to my own devices, I do lots of useful but bite-sized things. When I'm at work  (at my practicum site. It looks a lot simpler. hour chunks of seeing clients. very simple. I wonder if it might be useful to set aside larger chunks when I'm not at work, to really move forward on some bigger, important projects.

Other insight: I use my time pretty well. Not perfect, but there were only a few chunks during the week where I was clearly doing something I'd rather not be. Often times it happens from me doing good things, but just doing them for too long. I guess it's a nice pat on the back. Also it tell me I need to take more breaks in the middle of things to check in and make sure it's still a good idea to keep working on them.

So: larger chunks of single things, but also breaks in the middle, to re-align with my internal compass.

Also, some of the few time wastes occured when I was a) emotionally upset, or b) watching productivity videos. Ironic, that watching productivity video's are some of my least productive times.

This was a general issue I noticed, I didn't have many clear cut "just stop doing x" things. Almost everything was "well, that's not really a bad thing to do, just maybe not the best use of your time here." or even, "this might be a great use of your time, but it might be a very poor use of your time. You won't really know until later on when you see the fruits of your labor."

Overall, it have me a few specific insights, but also some self-confidence. I'm doing pretty good. Not terrible, for sure.

Oh, one final insight: it takes me a while to actually get to bed, from the time I stop doing stuff. A long wind-down time, I'd call it. So, I really have to stop working pretty early, like 8:30, if I want to go to bed really early. And yes, it's already about 9:15pm as I write this.

One other thing that has been really helpful, is taking a moment throughout the day, to pause, breath, get quiet, and reconnect to source, then ask what I should be doing and how I should be doing it. This really gives me the course correction I need to feel pretty good about how I spend my day.

I've got plenty more blogs to catch up on, so I'll leave it at that for now, but I just want to add that I'm continuing to love my internship/practicum. I chose a good site, a good supervisor, and I'm becoming more and more confident, a good profession for me. I'm currently taking career counseling as my final academic course, and it's making me think about my journey to here, which has been a long and winding one, and how I hope I can help some other people shortcut that journey a bit, and what a gift it is to find work that suits you.

OK, good night, and have a good week. 

First day of School, First day of work.

It is already January 12th! What to say. It's a short post because there's lots to do. Tomorrow is my first day 'at the office' so to speak, in m practicum. excited, maybe a bit nervous, not sure I'll get everything done to prepare, in time, though most of that preparation is not necessary, just the 'ol "over-prepare before the first day" kind of thing. And today was my first day of classes for this semester. Career development. I guess we'll see how good I did with my own career choice this time, over the next few months. But maybe I'll start to get a feel for it, sooner than that. I'll let you know ;o-)

Parents are in town, it's nice to see them. It's so different, having parents while in middle age, rather than having parents as a kid. Trippy to think of myself as not a kid anymore, even after all these years. I still feel young, like there is so much to do and learn and discover. Though my body is not feeling as young :D

Maybe I will leave it there, and keep it nice and quick. I've got a HIPPA training to complete and a weekly review to do some more on, and it's already 6pm! I didn't squander the day though, I've been working hard and with focus, on things that are important. Can't really ask for much more, except to be doing that with a spiritual constant-integrated-awareness and Bhagavad-Gita-style dedication of the fruits of action.