Ah yes, I forgot to mention two other things, one, apparently it's much easier to re-write elements of our personalities and personal narratives, when we are in a state of flux, which happens when we have big life changes, like moving somewhere new, starting a new job or school, etc.
I'm about to have two of those, one really big one that is temporary, Japan, and another less extreme one that will be long term, moving into a new house. I'm planning on taking some of my time now, to think about what I might like to change about myself. Which leads me into my second point, in a few days I'm going to meet with someone who is very successful, teaching older kids in a way that is adjacent to what I think I'd like to be doing. He's going to be mentoring me. At least in the short run, with long run being determined by how that goes. One of the things he said, after responding that I could prepare by thinking about goals I'd like for near and distant time horizons, was that he was going to help me figure out the person I needed to become, to achieve those goals.
This is maybe a bit of an esoteric point, but I find it fascinating, that in genearl the best research on behavior change, healing and transformation on a mental plane, all point to identity as the most powerful factor. I've been interested in habit change for a long time, but a lot of what habit change is good for is facilitating identity change. Who we think we are, subconsciously as much (or more than) consciously, is perhaps the most strong factor within our control for influencing our behaviour in an automatic way.
So, this is a big question moving forward: what do I want in life, specifically? In work, love, life in general. And who do I need to be, to achieve those goals?
Fascinating questions. I'll try and keep you posted on the results.
OK, only one to go and I'm caught up!
-I Out
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