Sweaty palms and teenaged awkwardness. Wisdom from the love lab. Dovetailed endings and beginnings.

Short post. It's been super nice to spend time with dear longtime friends in Fairfield. I've been thinking a lot about relationships lately. I feel like my many-year voyage of getting myself on track with the whole job/work element of being an adult is past the hump part. It had been my main focus for the last several years. At least five or six years. But I finally feel like the train has been lifted onto the appropriate set of tracks, and now the main work is just maintaining the engine with coals and following the turn signals.

So now I'm turning that stubborn and relentless (but slow) focus towards relationship. To that purpose, I'm doing what I always do when I want to get good at something: I look for the best possible teachers in the field and get to work learning from and implementing what they have to say. (Though the first step, which at least from my current perspective seems like the biggest one, is the initial stages of just finding, identifying, and getting to know someone who would be a good fit. A process that seems unreasonably intimidating.

In any case, one of the cools experts I've found is John Gottman, and here's pretty condensed video about his whole shpiel: