Worthiness. Clarity. Feel.
It was many years ago, when I was pining for a girlfriend, during my undergraduate at MUM, (once MIU, now MIU again) that I heard the phrase, "first deserve, then desire" and decided to work to become the best boyfriend material I could be. It didn't work right away, there was a lot of other stuff to do, but when I eventually did find my now wife (and to an extent, even when I was doing some dating) I found that paid off. I was a good boyfriend (and eventually husband) and I think I was able to have such a wonderful relationship with relatively little friction, due to that work I put in.
Now as I work towards work I love, I've stumbled across a concept that reminds me of this one, though from a different angle. It goes something like, "raise your frequency to that of your goal." And right now I'm thinking that means, once I've got a sufficiently clear idea of what that work entails, I need to make sure I'm a person who could get that work, and be successful in it.
All this depends on clarity of my goal. Goals are better if they are specific. On the other hand, with something as big as "work I love", it is possible that many things about that work might look different than I imagine them looking, while still actually meeting my core criteria, so it's also important not to be too specific, in the wrong ways. I need to get clear on what is actually important, and what the energetic feel is, that I'm looking for. That seems generally analogous to what I did to find Suzannah.
I don't feel like I have that clarity yet, but I have been working on it, and I do feel like I'm getting closer. Once it feels sufficiently clear, it's time to start 'dating,' wherein I can make further adjustments based on experience.
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