The Overthinker

My mother has informed me that I'm 'overthinking this whole dating thing.' And so I will try to follow her wisdom and simplify. I think I can get it down to a few basics:

I want someone who I get along with in that same wonderful way I get along with my very best friends.
I want someone who's not just a romantic partner, but a spiritual partner, someone who wants to walk the path of Self-realization, self-actualization, enlightenment, whatever you want to call it, together. This is and will likely always be my primary aim, and frankly, all my very best friends share this hard to define but easy to feel quality, so I maybe don't need to seperate it from the general best friend thing.

All this is not hard to notice, given enough time with someone. To that effect, I also think the best way to approach 'the whole dating thing' is how I would approach getting to know a friend, that is, without all the high-pressure judging and comparing to some kind of list. I suspect if I see it, I'll know it, as long as we're being open and authentic and not heavy with the expectations of the future or burdens of the past. (which, I realized, would make it super difficult to connect heart to heart and get to know even the best of my friends, so why would I do it with a date?

After some time, if we realize we've got that kind of resonance, then most of the little things probably won't matter so much, and I can do due diligence on the few things that do, if they haven't naturally come up, before deciding whether or not to move beyond the simple getting-to-know-you phase of things.

So this weeks post is early, since it sounds like my previous post made some people worry for my mental sanity. I suppose that's the downside of posting on a regular day, sometimes you'll get me at an upswing, sometimes at a downswing. So do I go back to a less regular schedule, and only post when I'm not in deep and stormy thought? I don't know, I think tea-time is a come-as-you-are affair.


Oh, and here's the inspiration for the title of this post:
https://youtu.be/O8beQPnPhtU